How to build relationships with smartest people?
February 18th, 2012 | 
Author: I know a few guys here and there who are successful at anything they choose to do, are intelligent and smart. They are nice, friendly and confident. I know I could relate to them in a lot of ways, but every time I start a conversation I feel as if I am being evaluated whether I am worth talking to or not. As if each word I say is a ticket to either “yeah, we could be friends of interest”, or “nice talking to you, but I’m busy now”. . . So my question is, what can I do extra of my being to be able to prove myself worthy and make intelligent friends as fast as possible?
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Polish their boots, carry them, or bend down and let them have a go at you.
Think straight be as good as them if you want to continue because a wolf can never be a lion……
be urself they ll like for whom u re not what u re.
Define your own area of interest and collaborate with your peers..
Avoid the flippantly arrogant… IQ restricted meetings are lame…
just be your self…you don’t need to act like them..if you really want to befriends with them, then GO!!!there’s nothing wrong with it..show them the real you..
Check out American Mensa online to find out who to contact in your area. I don’t know if you’re in the 98th percentile, but you might be able to meet some “smart” friends if they let you come to a meeting. Most of the meetings are just dinner groups. Sometimes they have really creative fun things to do and rarely talk down to people. However, just because somebody is smart doesn’t mean they are successful. It wouldn’t hurt to take a class of some kind. It would also help if you let them start the conversation. Isn’t there a saying about it being better to look stupid than open your mouth and remove all doubt? Just having intelligence as a criteria for a friend is rather limiting. People usually don’t wear their I.Q. on their shirtsleeves, so relax and let yourself be open to new friends of all types. Some of the most intelligent people I know are janitors. So go figure.
Interesting q, I posted a similar one but from the opposite end. I guess you have to find out what their interests and goals are and see how you can factor into that for them. A nonstrategic approach may lead to failure and recovery could be difficult. Some of these ppl will be hotshots one day and they have to be selective in who they give time to. So I suppose it’s like dealing with some kind of boss or applying for a job even. In interviews you are being evaluated at every moment so it’s like that I would say.
Read books, keep up on current events, and find out about them some and then approach them maybe. Dunno though, you may have to be careful about being perceived as an equal vs as an underling. You will be hard pressed to change how intelligent and capable you are but you may be able to put on a good act, at least initially. For me I tend to place everyone I come across into a grand scheme somehow. Mensa is a toss-up, get in touch with me if you wanna know. Try online forums, I love them.
I agree with sunshine just see what it is about them that makes them special and try to emulate it. Eventually you may naturally gravitate toward each other rather than forcing it or approaching them as an underling. It’s like approaching someone as an employee vs as a partner.
I sort of know what you’re talking about but I think you’re putting thoughts into the other person’s head.
Either that, or these guys really aren’t worth being friends with because they sound like jerks.
But I actually think you are projecting your insecurities onto them.
Firstly intelligent people aren’t another species, nor do they have exclusive friendship with smart people. What usually happens is that the smart intelligent motivated people usually end up with ambitions and those people end up together. Ie in the top math/english/dance/arts class. You get my drift.
Secondly the really smart funny intelligent people won’t judge people because they’re not as smart, because as I have frequently found out, everyone has different strengths, and they know that well. Not many people judge each other on their intelligence (unless they’re really stupid… ie REALITY SHOWS).
But yes best way is to have a common interests, and become one yourself. This means getting good grades, getting involved in things, getting ambition and working on it. You’ll quickly become part of that group with ambitions, work ethic and intelligence.
The people who can achieve anything they want to achieve, try and believe they can. They are hard workers and put everything they can into it. Its not just intelligence, its a personality type.
So yeah become that personality and you’ll soon be friends with them.
i am in the same scenario. worst is, this person loves to talk about anything under the sun with immense knowledge of almost everything or at least a better words to say so that i find myself at lost most of the time hence i choose to just listen which i think bores him bcuz i do not respond appropriately. This somehow makes him uneasy & thinks that i am not interested in anything that he says or do which is not but you got this feeling that you say something & is being evaluated/ rated by him thus keeping mum is the safest.
Anyway, what i do is i just be myself & try to respond sometimes and he can sense now when he should change topic. Theres no way pretending that you know what s/he is talking about. You either bluntly say you don’t know (which i do) or just listen to it but never respond by pretending you know what is it all about bcuz this will eventually bore both/all of you and dump the friendship.
take it easy.. you gotta be you!! There must be something interesting about you which they will find given the chance, if not, you can always find new friends with similar interests.